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Don’t Think Twice, or How to Survive the Internet



Anonymous, Hi!



 

Much like the band, my post about the Chili Peppers won’t go away.   It got kicked back into  circulation a few weeks ago,  this time because the Chili Peppers were on a list of artists a women’s advocacy group demanded Spotify remove from promotional playlists.  Outrage once again ensued.

I woke up one morning to an onslaught of insults.  As always,  I shrugged them off. People feel deeply connected to the bands they love, and who among us would not call a person who feels differently a disgusting, abhorred, disgraceful cunt?  It’s not surprising that people lash out when their heroes are discredited.  I find it odd that Chili Peppers fans are unaware of the band’s attitude toward women, given their history,  but I find it equally odd that they have fans in the first place, given their music. Of course, that’s only my opinion, and I am a disgrace to music, to greatness, and all of humanity.

I deal with the aggrieved citizens of the internet by pretending they don’t exist.  It’s both a choice and a necessity.  I don’t have the bandwidth to tune out strangers on the web when I’ve got real-life people to ignore.   It takes effort! I have to be careful not to miss out on joy because I’m engrossed in avoiding irritation, and I have to remember that if I look away from every annoyance,  I cast aside opportunities for delight.  Once  I was  so busy ignoring the millenials on 3rd Street that I almost missed seeing a guy in a Young the Giant t-shirt walk into a utility pole.   I can’t let that happen again.

I tried to be a person who doesn’t give a fuck.  I thought I pulled it off when I worked in the music industry, but I doubt I had anyone fooled –if you lose your shit over a secondary paper in a tertiary market misquoting Mike Ness, or regard anything related to Pearl Jam as critical, you suffer from an overabundance of fucks. Eventually I decided to accept that I am who I am, and I am calm only when sedated.  I’m sensitive to a fault, I  make mountains out of molehills,  and I sweat the small stuff hard.    I embraced the practice of not thinking and avoidance because not giving a fuck was out of reach.

I have yet to acquire the serenity to accept the things I cannot change — the excruciating nature of existence, the unchangeable anguish of the past,  and the inexplicable skin around my  knees are among the many  unavoidables  I just don’t think about.      Thankfully, I can now dismiss the disturbing eventualities without conscious effort.   I’m convinced it’s a gift of evolution;  as our lifespan has increased, not thinking has become  instinctual, an intellectual mechanism to survive the  rigor of age.  It’s possible that I believe this because of a genetic predisposition to the memory loss symptomatic of Alzheimer’s Disease.

I realize that making more jokes about the Chili Peppers was unnecessary,  and I know I may have again angered their fan.   If that’s the case, I hope he leaves a comment!  I haven’t been called a disgrace since I was in my 20s,  and it’s a delight to feel young again.

 

4 comments on “Don’t Think Twice, or How to Survive the Internet

  1. I’m reading this and the original post due to a discussion on Bill Holdship’s FB page, and I’m stunned. Not by the fact that the members of the RHCP are scumbags. I decided that years ago. I’m stunned by the sheer number of victim blaming comments on your original post. I never realized just how prevalent this kind of behavior was, and not just in musicians, until the rise of social media. I thought that harassers, let alone rapists and other criminals, were the exceptions rather than the rule. Yes, I was pretty naive. Thank you for having the courage to tell your story. (BTW, I did especially love your snarky thank you’s to the very worst of the comments.)

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    • Julie Farman
      June 7, 2018

      The comments on the original post were less brutal than the comments that appeared elsewhere. Reddit, of course, but also less obvious sites like the Huffington Post and Vulture. I feel only slightly courageous – my story is easier to tell than the stories about assault and rape. I have huge admiration and respect for the people that shared those stories and were willing go go through the inevitable hateful aftermath. (Thank you, sincerely.)

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  2. Al T
    September 18, 2018

    The fact that the person had to be anonymous shows the strength in their convictions. Their criminal convictions are probably more notable. Anyway, nice to see you don’t let the dickheads ruin your day so much. Oh, and RHCP sound like the an exhaustive migraine giving you the most arduous, laboured lobotomy possible. Seriously, fuck that band. Shame to hear about Flea being a wanker, though, he’s the only one with any actual talent. Anyway, RHCP should retire if they haven’t already. Arseholes.

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  3. concerned citizen
    June 19, 2021

    It has been some time since these conversations have taken place.

    While I was horrified as being enlightened about these fools through all the stories that were shared, none were even able to fully elucidate what a terrorist this band’s leader has been over the course his career, using any and every innocent life he can harass his way into taking hold of to further an agenda (a Lithuanian dynasty by now) that any reasonable person would recognize as a mafia-style takeover of our populace, aspiring to tyranny, and with no regard whatsoever for the well-being of the country in which he was born. Seriously. The influence over every fan’s life is carefully measured and leveraged, often filtered through some fantasy vision of a utopic future humanity which has been his purpose to bring to fruition, but amounts to obedience and blind faith above all.

    My life, from long before I had any clue, was being used- absolutely without my consent- as subject for their work, and full-blown terrorist harassment in the energetic sphere has been my reality 24/7 for over 5 years. Most simply because I had the audacity to say no. There is no recourse, because there is no evidence of a crime (familiar playbook?).

    Most of the damage from this campaign against innocence is already done, and many many fans are none the wiser. But we should have recognized this person. many of the signals were intentionally hidden in plain sight within the lyrics (perverse atonement, I guess… for one of the most dangerous and sociopathic malignant narcissists this world has ever seen) It’s truly scary the generations of young lives this “band” has influenced, and the individual and collective consciousness which has been leveraged, squeezed for every drop.

    The world, and our country, does not need any more celebrities.

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